Family looks different for everyone. Getting married has me in a season of preparation, and reflection. Being surrounded by family, as Samuel and I take this next step, doing it God’s way, has just been so beautiful. I am really in awe of God’s goodness and faithfulness along the way..especially as I look back and reflect.
Family use to be confusing, complicated and even painful for me. My beautiful mama wasn’t given a safe home or loving example of family, and the men she had children with chose to bail and leave her to do “family” all on her own, as a single mom with two little ones. We didn’t have “family” support and when times got tough, the state stepped in, and praise God, eventually @safefamilies stepped in as well. 🙌🏼
After many moves, many homes, many twists and turns along our journey, the family (families) I have beside me in this season of preparation and celebration are more than I could have dreamed of. (And more than instagram will allow me to post, hah) —> Although the enemy fought hard to tear my family apart, his fight was in vain, because now all of my families have united as one in the name of Jesus and what God is going to do makes the gates of hell shake with fear. 🌊 What the enemy intended for evil and hurt, God is using for the greatest good. As Samuel and I get married, all of our families collide as one, and the unity in this picture God is painting with our stories is seriously more beautiful than my heart can handle. I am undone by the goodness and love of God being revealed to me through family.
As I reflect and as I look ahead, the family that Samuel and I have, and are building together, is far more beautiful because God’s ability to redeem, restore, heal and breathe life on what the enemy did to tear my family apart through addiction, foster care, and so much disconnection, hurt and darkness. Heyyy, but the sweet truth is God’s light shines the brightest in the darkness, and this family is uniting in love to plunder the pits of hell, and see broken families restored and embraced into God’s family. I’m almost 8 years sober, I get to join the 3% of foster kids who graduate college with a bachelors degree, I’m getting married and going to start a beautiful, healthy, God-loving family, and my life is a miracle because of the love of family.
This past Saturday I was given another opportunity be share at an event for Safe Families, and my heart just burns with passion to see what God is doing through His church to restore families. Foster care doesn’t have to be painful, but can be beautiful and restorative, inviting hurting families into God’s family. My mom, my brother and I have found the love of family in all of God’s people who banned together to love us through our painful times. They say it takes a village. This is my beautiful tribe, and this is only the beginning. ♥️
God’s design for marriage is so purposeful and beautiful. I may be young, but choosing to get married to Samuel, although can feel scary in moments of fear, is really the most deeply comforting gift I’ve ever been given. He looked at me the other day and said, “beloved, I am so grateful I get to be your forever home.” ♥️
I grew up shifting in and out of foster care, feeling the sting of broken relationships and families divided. My own family, and the families of every foster child I rubbed shoulders with. Such deep pain that marks our hearts. If you’ve felt it, you may even feel it now •Marriage is a beautiful gift of intimacy created and purposed to last a lifetime, providing unshakable security and enduring, life-giving love. A forever home. 🏡♥️
Family is suppose to be forever. I can feel the sting of pain that comes from broken families and relationships cut short. After coming to know Jesus, Samuel and I both decided we were going to wait to give the gift of our bodies to anyone but our future husband and future wife. I didn’t know the treasure I was until I realized the high price that was paid for me on the cross. My heart was flooded with hope for my future, and my future family. God designed sex as a beautiful gift that creates this life-long bond, and I am realizing more and more that the precious gift that sex is has been completely devalued down to temporary pleasure.
Samuel and I decided when we first began dating that, even if we had not in the past, we wanted to save the gift of sex for our wedding night. It has been a fight, and temporary pleasure has seemed more accessible and desirable than the future joy of a life-long marriage, but we have stood our ground. For our marriage, for our children, and for the forever home we will have together.
This is a vulnerable post, but I felt it was a really important one. Temporary sexual pleasure, can lead to the deepest pain God never wanted us to endure. His heart grieves when we experience the end of such an intimate relationship. He’s a good father who wants to protect his children and see us experience the fullness of joy that is gifted to us in marriage. A forever home-It’s worth the wait!